Thursday, December 31, 2009

Stand By Me

In this day and age, it's not only the groom's responsibility to ask his betrothed to marry him in a creative and clever way. No, once that question is asked, it's now up to the bride to ask her favorite friends, sisters, cousins, etc to stand by her on her big day. Without fail, every time I tell someone that I was asked to be a bridesmaid, the follow up question is always "How did she ask?"
Since I have many brides as well as BMs reading, I thought I would share my readers the way in which I was asked to play a special part in each of my brides' days.

Bride #1 invited us all over for dinner. Right before we ate, she said she had a special announcement. One of her (now) sister-in-laws didn't live in NY, so she called her and put her on speaker. She then read us a beautiful and hysterical poem (I may or may not have shed a tear), where we all had our own special stanzas (the groom video taped the entire thing!). Of course we all said yes, ate a delicious home-cooked meal, and got copies of our poem to take home. I still have mine in my memory box today.

Bride #2 asked those who lived in NY individually, but sent the out of towners' their requests in the mail. Bride #2 got married on 7/7/07 and coincidentally had 7 bridesmaids. She made us this beautiful card with a poem asking us to be part of her "Lucky 7". In the card was a folder with seven "Lucky 7" lottery tickets- very creative and so apropos! I may not have made big bucks off the lottery, but was very "lucky" to have been chosen.

Bride #3 works in catering sales, and one of her colleagues was a semi-professional baker. She enlisted her help, and dropped off at all of our apartments a cookie basket. In it there were decorated cookies of a bride (with the bride's name on it), a bridesmaid (with our names on it) and a wedding cake. Included in the basket was the cutest "Will you be my bridesmaid card" asking us to be a part of the big day. You can order similar cookies here.

Bride #4 also dropped off a package at our buildings. This time I got a bottle of champagne with a clever note that said "Groom #4 popped a question to me, now I am popping one to you. Will you be my bridesmaid?" I'll toast to that!

Bride #5 doesn't live in the same city as me- and she wanted to make sure to send her BMs something practical they would use. She sent us all deliciously-smelling dress sachets with a gorgeous handmade "Will you be my bridesmaid?" card- with the most sentimental poem inside.

Bride #6 really impressed me. She is not known for being the planner or organizer in my group of friends- but one Sunday night she organized a group of gals to go for (what else?) Chinese food. We went to a restaurant that does not serve fortune cookies, but at the end of the meal- the owner came over to check on us. She said that as we know, they typically do not serve fortune cookies- but tonight was a special occasion. She handed us all gigantic fortune cookies- and sure enough, the fortune inside said "Will you be my bridesmaid? Love, Bride #6 and her wedding date" How do you say "yes" in Chinese? Like this idea? You can order yours at

Bride #7 asked all of her BMs in different meaningful ways. I have a group of friends from high school who do "group" dinners every now and then. She happen to organize one shortly after she got engaged so we could all catch up and dish some gossip from our recent 10 year reunion (which some of the girls had to miss). At dinner- she gave us all these really heartfelt sentimental cards and included a friendship poem inside. Her grandfather had recently passed away and while cleaning out his desk- they came across this anonymous poem. It really resonated with Bride #7 and reminded her of all of her wonderful friends, so she included it while asking us to stand up in her wedding.

I was at dinner with another friend last night who is recently engaged and is currently brainstorming about how to ask her BMs. I loved her idea so much, I just had to write about it. She is ordering custom M&Ms. One one, she'll print her and the groom's monogram and wedding date. On the next she'll print "will you be my..." and on the third "bridesmaid". So cute!

Some other ideas I have seen, are build-a-bears with customized printed t-shirts that said "BM Name, Will you be my bridesmaid? Love, Bride", picture frames with a picture of the bride & BM, cookie cakes that say "Will you be my bridesmaid?" and even a Hanky Panky bridesmaid thong.

Any way you do it- the most important part is definitely the card. This is the bride's opportunity to be sincere and speak from the heart. This is where she can tell her BM why she is so important, and special, and why she wants her by her side on her special day. Of course, you can use any card you want- but why not be festive and get one made specially for the occasion, like this "Will you be my bridesmaid" card. (FYI, also available in flower girl, Maid of Honor, etc).

Looking for some easy gift sets? Here are a few of my favorite from
These are all great ways for your BM to proudly display her title of honor!
Been a BM before? What's your favorite way you have been asked? Already a bride? How did you ask your BFFs? Superbridesmaid wants to know!
BTW- I am dedicating this posting to Work Bride #2 who recently got engaged, and had asked SuperBridesmaid for advice on how to ask her BMs. I hope she finds this helpful!
Happy Bridesmaiding and Happy New Year!

Friday, December 11, 2009

Jersey Girl Gets a Jersey

Anyone who knows me knows that I love giving personalized gifts at a bridal shower, and rarely buy anything off the registry. Leave that to the groom's mom's friends who barely know your BFF. If you don’t get her something special and personal, who will? Bride #3 recently went to a shower, and told me about such a cute and original gift, that I had to write about it!
The bride is a Jersey girl (what up Garden State?!) who moved to Long Island when she moved in with her fiancĂ©. Apparently, he’s also a big hockey fan, and like any good Nassau county resident- a diehard Islanders fan with season tickets. His loyalty for his favorite team rubbed off on his soon-to-be-bride throughout the course of their relationship, and one of her BMs took notice. Instead of buying her bride another vase, serving piece or place setting, this creative BM ordered the bride a personalized NY Islanders jersey- the back had her first initial and new last name on it. (Props to the BM for putting the first initial so the groom didn’t try to steal it!).
According to my sources, the bride was ecstatic and could not stop gushing over this extra special and clever gift. She can’t wait to wear it to a game and proudly display her new name. I thought this would be helpful to all of my followers because I think we all know a girl whose fiancĂ© is a little sports addicted. And if you can’t beat ‘em, you might as well join ‘em (and look good doing it!).

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Monday, November 30, 2009

Bridal Gown Bargain

Wanna know how to be the best BM ever? Help your bride save oodles of money on her wedding gown! You heard it here first (unless you were perusing the Styles section yesterday, and saw it there)...Saks Fifth Avenue is having their bi-annual bridal sample sale Wednesday, December 2 through Sunday, December 6 in their New York flagship store. So hurry up, grab your bride and run to the 9th floor where she can save up to 70% off original retail prices on hundreds of designers like Vera Wang, Reem Acra, Amsale, Kenneth Pool, Monique Lhuillier, Anna Maier~Ulla-Maija and many more. Who knows? Maybe she'll repay you by picking out a dress you'll actually wear again.
Happy Bridesmaiding!

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Bridal Underwear Makes A Great Gift!

One of my favorite gifts to give a bride is underwear. It could be for her "OMG! You just got engaged!" gift, part of her shower gift, or part of the lingerie shower/honeymoon gift game at her bachelorette party. It's always a great gift, because not only do they make a festive commerative of the big day, but they can still be used after that. Everyone can always use an extra pair of undies as it helps push off doing laundy for one extra day.

When your bride gets engaged, you can rush on over with a cute white lacy pair that says "bride" or a blue "I Do" (check that "something" off the list!) for her to wear on the big day. Everyone's favorite thongs, Hanky Panky, has a whole bridal offering and are even offering free shipping on their new website through 12/31/09. I highly recommend checking out their bridal selection. They are so comfortable, and all of our lingerie drawers are stocked with them anyway- so why not get her favorites for her big day? Anyone who attended Bride #6's wedding, got a little show of her bridal Hanky Pankys all weekend long!

As you know from previous posts, I am a big fan of "the honeymoon gift bag" gift for the shower, and love adding in personalized undies, that say "Mrs. Groom's Last Name." All of my brides' husbands have loved seeing their name in rhinestones across their new bride's tush. I prefer to do this on boy shorts (gives you more room!), and this pair from is my go to. If you don't have time to get it personalized (don't worry, SuperBridesmaid sometimes procrastinates too!), then I recommend this pair of "Just Married" boyshorts from

Is your bride a little racier? She might prefer something with a bit of a joke like the options from but note to self, keep this pair for the bachelorette party. Your bride might die of embarrassment (or never forgive you) if she opens up a pair of thongs that say "Groom's playground" in front of her boss, grandmother, and future mother-in-law. Pairs like this are like penis straws, and meant for our generation's eyes only.

Do you have any favorite pairs to give your brides?
Happy Bridesmaiding!

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Do the Funky Chicken

Typically a big wedding no-no is the Chicken Dance. It reminds us of elementary school gym class. After planning Bride #7's Bachelorette Party though, a big yes is the "Chicken Bus" in NYC. Officially known as La Rumba Express- this bus made our evening.

Let me back up for one second though. Bride #7 wanted her big night out to be in NYC (where she and almost all of her friends and BMs live) so that a) people didn't have to travel, b) to keep costs down and c) so that as many people as possible could come. We invited 30 people, and 22 ended up attending. Not surprising from a bride who has thirteen bridesmaids! So, even though our night was local- the MOH and her planning committee were charged with making this night special and different.

We started off with your typical cocktails, apps and games at someone's apartment. Next, we were off to a delicious prix-fixed dinner...but we traveled to dinner in style. Waiting for us at the street corner was the infamous Chicken Bus. Bride #7 had never seen or heard of it, so it was quite a shock to her. It was a ratty old school bus big enough to safely transport us all that blasted music (with the iPod we provided), with flashing lights, rubber chickens, a saddle, stripper pole, stuffed parrots, nets, and of course coolers to hold the beer we brought along. We danced all the way to dinner "wahooing" and screaming the entire time.
After dinner, we got back on the party bus and headed out for our bar crawl. The first bar we went to was so crowded, that some girls left to go back and hang out on the bus. We decided the bus was so amazing that we actually skipped the second bar to have our driver, Jose, drive us around. We had our friends, good music, bongo drums, beer, and of course an inflatable penis- so what more did we need? We drove around, and everyone on the streets would look at us. We even threw one guy Mardi Gras beads and he lifted his shirt for us. We had a mounted police officer come so close to the bus that the horse stuck his face in the open window area, and one of the BMs pet him.

Warning though, La Rumba Express is not cheap-- but if you have a lot of friends attending your bachelorette party, and you want to make this night stand out- I highly recommend it. Thanks to the Chicken Bus, Bride #7 told us she had the most unbelievable night, and that she couldn't have planned it better herself...and trust me, she tried to!

Happy Bridesmaiding and enjoy the pictures!

Don't Let Mother Nature Rain on Your Parade

Last weekend was wedding #7, and unfortunately the weather did not cooperate with us. The wedding was in the Berkshires, in Lennox, Mass- and there was a huge storm that passed through over the weekend. They were forced to go to every Plan B possible, but everything was beautiful, and to quote the bride "the florist made it all seem like Plan A's."

The one unfortunate part was that the reception was held in a tent. So the grass around the dance floor was sopping wet, and unfortunately part of the dance floor was flooded and there were cones where you couldn't dance. We all thought that Bride #7 was going to freak out when she saw the cones that would limit the dance space, and were not visually appealing. She did, but only for a second. She then realized- what was she going to do? There was nothing she could do, but throw up her hands and say "It is what it is." It also helped, that when her wedding coordinator told her about it, she also mentioned that her bridesmaids were alerady all on the floor dancing. The wedding coordinator told her that the band wasn't even playing dance music, but her friends were already cutting a rug. The bride knew at this point that the rain wouldn't stand in her way of having a great party.

All night people were coming up to her telling her that she had the most amazing friends. Her guests told her that her friends and especially BMs were what made the party. We were on the dance floor all night long, and no one cared about the damp grass that your shoe may have gotten stuck in, or the dirt at the bottom of the gown's dress- we did what we came to do- have an amazing time. Another BM told Bride #7, that the bride sets the tone for the wedding. Someone there told me that the "kids" (I love how we are in our late 20's or early 30's but are still referred to as "kids") set the tone. Either way, all of us set the party tone in a big way. Morral of the story is- don't let the weather affect you (or your bride). We think in this case, it gave us more incentive to party even harder to show Mother Nature she couldn't rain on our parade.

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Monday, July 27, 2009

What A Way To Make An Entrance

Hey BMs! So sorry it's been ages since my last post....I've actually been quite busy with weddings and bachelorette parties! However, I couldn't NOT write about the recent Wedding-Related YouTube sensation that's been passed around since last week. Without giving away too much, let's just say it's a very clever (and totally fresh and new) wedding march. In case you haven't seen it (or want to watch again), click here to view the video as well as an interesting take on it from Paul Smalera of TrueSlant.
I have to agree with him- what a way to differenciate your wedding! I have sit through many a wedding processionals (I'm not always in the wedding party) and sometimes they can be a little long. This is the perfect way to spice it up a little and really "get the party going." And from what I hear...this is a big trend and not just an internet gag. A friend of a friend was recently in a wedding, and each bridesmaid came out dancing to her own song! The song was reflective of your personality. How fun is that? Now that's a bride who really celebrates the individuality of her BMs. If you got to chose your own song to walk (or dance) down the aile to- what would it be? SuperBridesmaid wants to know!

As always- Happy Bridesmaiding!

Monday, June 29, 2009

Lend A Helping Hand

Last night, I was at Bride #6's apartment super late helping her and her fiance fold and prepare their programs. The wedding is this Saturday! Our backs hurt from hunching over the table (we're getting old), our fingers were numb from hole punching, folding and using a bone folder to make a sharp crease...however we got it all done! It wasn't the most luxurious of bridesmaid duties, but it needed to get done. Bride #6 has been a little stressed before she leaves for her wedding weekend, so I wanted to do what I could to help her out.

This morning I got the nicest, sweetest most sincere e-mail from Groom #6 thanking me for helping them out last night. I hope he doesn't mind that I quote him here. He wrote "It is really easy to help someone when they want to go shopping but it isn't always easy to help someone when they need to do something as tedious, time-consuming, and torturous as program building." While I wouldn't say it was torture last night, because I did get to spend some quality time with the happy couple, I am sharing this story to remind all of you that you should always offer your help to the bride. It's true- we all volunteer to look at wedding gowns or go shoe shopping, but it's rare that we want to give up a beautiful sunny day to do something laborious. Just keep this in mind the next time your bride is stressing out about everything she needs to do. Trust me, she'll be so thankful!

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Monday, June 15, 2009

Towel Wedding Cakes

When the other bridesmaids and I were coming up with gift ideas for Bride #1, we wanted to get her the towels off her registry and roll them up and decorate them like a wedding cake. Unfortunately, her future (but now) mother-in-law beat us to the punch and bought the towels. She had them professionally made into a cake format, and it was amazing.

It really inspired me to be able to do it in the future. Bride #3 loves her monogram, and I knew she would love it. So the other bridesmaids and I chipped in for all the towels on her registry, had them monogrammed and I made them into a wedding cake. It took hours but it came out looking amazing. I got rave reviews at the shower, and no one could believe I made it myself. It took a while for Bride #3 to disassemble the cake and actually use the towels because she didn't want to take it apart, but hey- you can't dry yourself off after the shower with a tier of a cake! So it had to be done...

Bride #7 was my roommate at the time I made my first towel cake, and saw me slaving over it for hours. As soon as she got engaged, she put in her "request" for one at her shower. We just had the shower this past weekend, and Bride #7 loved her cake just as much as Bride #3. Once again, only positive remarks and some people were in total awe.

I have to admit that I'm quite proud of the results and wanted to share them with all of you. I love giving this gift because it's something practical the couple needs, but is presented in a beautiful and special way. If you are interested in having SuperBridesmaid make a wedding towel cake for your next shower, please email me directly at for pricing.

Happy Bridesmaiding and enjoy the towel cake photos!

Bride #3's Towel Wedding Cake

Bride #7's Towel Wedding Cake

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Bachelorette Party Tips

One of my friends and co-bridesmaids in two weddings writes a weekly blog for We TV about planning her own wedding. This week she talks about Bride #6's Bachelorette Party in Newport (mentioned below) and gives some great Bachelorette Party tips!

You should definitely check it out!

Happy Bridesmaiding!

"OMG You Just Got Engaged!!!!" Gifts

In addition to an engagement gift (typically something off the registry purchased a few weeks after the actual engagement), I like to buy my brides an "OMG! You just got engaged!! (insert girlie squeal)" Gift. This is a little something special for just the bride (not the couple) to get her excited about her year ahead. I will try to have the gift ready in my apartment if I know the engagement is coming soon, but sometimes if you are caught off guard, you need to just haul a** to the nearest store and pick one up! Some of my favorite gifts to give include:
  • Bedazzled "Bride" tank top
  • A ring dish (I made a personalized one at one of those paint your own pottery places)
  • White "bride" or "I Do" underwear/thong
  • Bridal magazines
  • Ring/jewelry cleaner so she can keep that rock sparkling!
  • A gift certificate for a manicure or better yet- take her to get one so you can spend some QT together
  • Wedding planning book (I usually go with this Martha Stewart book, because I personalize the cover with the bride and groom's names. I also like that it's a binder, so you can put things in or take them out)

If you are good friends with the groom, he shouldn't feel left out! There are some gifts you can get him too! Some examples are:

Let me know if you have any other great ideas to share.

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Not going to the Bachelorette Party? No problem!

We all have busy years when we get in to Wedding Season, and sometimes we can't always go to the bachelorette party. Or, especially in this environment, some people may not be able to afford to go. Just because you can't be there, it doesn't mean you can't let the bride know that you are thinking about her. I always recommend you send a little gift to the bride to show her you are sorry you can't be there but she's special to you. Some ideas are as simple as sending a bottle of wine, champagne or dessert to the table if they go out to dinner. Other elaborate ideas include sending gift baskets to a hotel room, a gift if there's a lingerie shower, or any other special treat that you know the bride loves (i.e. if Magnolia cupcakes make her salivate, send a few her way!). Your bride will understand if you can't make it, but but getting a little gift from you will definitely make her smile. Buying a round of shots at the bar won't replace you, but it sure will help her enjoy her night!

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Bachelorette Party in Newport

I just got back from an AMAZING weekend in Newport for Bride #6's bachelorette party. There were thirteen of us (including) the bride, and it went so smoothly! Bride #6 is probably the biggest partier of all of my brides, and we always thought we would definitely be going to Vegas for her. (Or New Orleans, because this bride would definitely get lots of beads, if you know what I mean). However- this isn't the economic environment where we can all drop a grand on a bachelorette party, when many of us are getting laid off, or taking pay cuts. So, we promised Bride #6 that we would go out of town, and we did. We did it in a really fun yet economical way.

Instead of doing the usual NYC summer escape like Fire Island, the Hamptons, or Jersey Shore- we went up to Newport, RI. Newport was just a 3 1/2 hour drive away, and a really cute little town. We found a gorgeous house to rent, that fit all 13 of us (very) comfortably. The house had everything we needed, including a fantastic outdoor pool and hot tub. We were only a few blocks from town, so were able to walk to our delicious and reasonable seafood dinner. There was a club in the basement of the restaurant, so we knew exactly where to go after eating, and the restaurant even reserved a table for us. The restaurant had been recommended, and we chose the club not only because of its proximity to dinner, but because it was called The Boom Boom Room, and how do you not go to a club with that name for a party animal bride? We had so much fun there, that we stayed until the bar closed (which isn't too hard in Newport, since the bars all close at 1 AM!)

The rest of the weekend was spent hanging out at the house. We brought in bagels Saturday morning, and hung out by the pool eating chips and dip and drinking bloody marys and margaritas all day. The MOH and I collected money from everyone in advance and stocked the house with all of the food and necessities for the weekend. We bar-b-qued hot dogs and hamburgers for dinner and hung out in the house all night. We took advantage of the different rooms and had different activities and games all night long celebrating the bride.

I was nervous that we weren't going out enough for the bride, but she was so appreciative of 12 of her friends all coming out for her and celebrating her all weekend. She was so excited to just spend such quality time with her closest friends- and it was so nice to hear that. You could really tell she was so warmed and ecstatic all weekend, it makes all of your planning and hard work feel rewarded. She told us it was the best weekend of her life, but we told her, we're glad to hear that now, but hope the wedding is even better!

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Thursday, May 21, 2009

LL Bean Bags

As many of you know, I am a big fan of giving LL Bean Boat & Tote bags with the bride's new initials as part of the shower gift. I recently did this for Bride #6. When I got an e-mail after I placed the order that the color I chose was now out of stock- I wasn't happy. I called LL Bean, and they were so great and accommodating! I had originally ordered the medium bag with long handles, and they were totally out of purple mediums- so they gave me the large purple bag and didn't charge me for shipping. It ended up being cheaper than the medium with shipping! Then, since I was a novice at ordering the large bag (the medium with long handles is my usual standard)- I ordered the large bag with the long handles rather than the standard handles. Bride #6 is about 5'1", so the long handles on the large bag were WAY too big. The bag started at her waist! No problem though, I called LL Bean and even though the bag was monogrammed, I can exchange it for a new one! Plus, they're shipping the new one out with free shipping and all I have to pay for is the shipping to send the old one back. Fabulous! Lessons learned from this experience? A) When ordered Boat & Tote bags go with either the medium bag and long handles or large bag and standard handles and B) Always go with a reputable established company. Don't cheap out and order an imitation Boat & Tote bag on a cheapie website...go for the real thing. Their customer service was impeccable and they have super fast shipping!!!

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Monday, May 4, 2009

Shower Gifts

One question I am always asked about is a shower gift. There are many different opinions on shower gifts, and whether or not to get a gift off the registry or not. The fact of the matter is- you are never wrong if you stay within the registry. I mean, the bride chose that gift- obviously she wants it!
However, as one of her bridesmaids, you are obviously one of her closest friends (or family members). Who knows her better than you do? If anyone is at liberty to get a gift off the registry and know that she'll like it, it's you! Just use your judgement!
One of my favorite things to do is have all of the bridesmaids chip in together and get a sort of combination gift. Half from the registry, and half using our creative imagination! One of my most common gifts is the travel/honeymoon gift and it's a great compromise of on and off the registry. This gift can include any or all of the following items, depending on your budget.
  • Luggage that the bride registered for
  • Luggage tags (possibly even personalized with the couple's monogram or last initial)
  • LL Bean Boat & Tote bag with the bride's new initials
  • "Mrs. _____" tank top for her honeymoon or morning after brunch
  • Just Married Underwear
  • "I Love [Groom's Name]" underwear
  • Travel cosmetics bag (possibly personalized with name or bride's new initials)
  • Travel lingerie and/or shoe bags
  • Sunscreen
  • Bathing Suit Cover Up
  • Travel slippers
  • Robe (possibly personalized with name or bride's new initials)
  • Honeymoon Journal
  • Honeymoon disposable camera

I have given this to numerous brides, even for weddings that I am not in, and have always gotten the most positive reaction. They all love it!

If it's just you and you are limited, but want to go off the registry, the following are some great generic gifts that I heard are always appreciated!

  • Lingerie (use your discretion how risky you want to get here)
  • Picture frames
  • Serving Pieces
  • Gift Certificates (restaurants, spas, etc)

If you want to be really special and go off the registry, here are some other ideas.

  • Create a scrapbook of the bride and groom's pre-married life together and give her a blank album to start when they get married
  • Buy the bride a personalized recipe box with her new married name. Secretly e-mail the other bridesmaids and important family members (sisters, both moms, grandmas, aunts, etc) and fill the box with the recipes. I did this for Bride #5 and she said it was the best gift she received at her shower. She was so touched to have in her possession the recipes her friends and family members are best known for. She even gave herself the deadline of her one year anniversary to make each recipe at least once. Her husband is loving every minute of it!
  • Personalized stationary with the bride's new name

As I always say though, keep your bride in mind. If you know she really wants her registry completed- buy her something off the registry and use your creativity somewhere else. We did this for Bride #2 and Bride #4. We bought them their pots and pans and then their luggage and they were both thrilled to get the high ticket items they didn't think they would otherwise receive.

Happy Bridesmaiding!

Know Your Bride!

The most important thing I tell everyone who asks, is KNOW YOUR BRIDE! Seriously...this is her day, her year! Yes, yes- everyone likes to have fun, but if you know that your bride is the type of girl who gets mortified when she gets up in front of a large crowd, don't make her sing karaoke at her bachelorette party. If your bride can't stand getting dressed up, don't over do it on the bachelorette accessories. If she's a bit tame and modest- don't make her party all night at a club.

The same goes for a rehearsal dinner speech or a bridal shower gift. If you love to give lingerie at a shower, but have a modest bride- keep her in mind and don't embarass her. If she can't take a joke- be kind when you roast her at the rehearsal dinner.

Just remember, that even though you may have a bridezilla who demands the exact nail polish color you wear and calls you at all hours of the day with questions and demands, she IS still your friend. So try not to embarass her and tailor your gifts, activities, etc around her. Trust me, you'll want her to do the same for you when it's your turn.

Happy Bridesmaiding!